I want to look this good while jogging.


I blatantly stole this image off Facebook, because I want to be this woman.

I look at her legs and her flat stomach and I want to be her. I want to look like that.

A stranger in a Facebook group for entrepreneurs told me I was beautiful after looking at the photos on my website, and my first inclination was not to be flattered or say thank you, but to explain it away… Great makeup guy, good lighting, and photoshop.

I’ve been doing OK lately, really. I’ve been exercising consistently, and not as any kind of punitive measure or even as any kind of “I’m going to trade exercise for food” game.  I’ve been not dieting and not really bingeing. Much.

OK, I did make those things where you put peanut butter cookie dough in a mini muffin tin and then press a Hershey’s kiss in the middle while they’re warm, and I ate like six of them.

But other than that…

(That’s actually a scary thing I haven’t faced yet: being responsible/normal/in-control around foods I normally binge on. One step at a time…)

I realized I’m not ready to count calories. I may never be. I’m trying to be OK with that.

I am writing down what I eat and weighing myself as the book says to do. I need to focus on that for another week at least — maybe until the holidays are over — before I move into swapping out other activities for bingeing. But I feel like I’m making progress.

I’ve been pruning and curating the media I consume. I’m getting rid of traditional women’s magazines and even food magazines. I’m replacing weight loss feeds with recovery feeds on my Facebook.

But one I haven’t got rid of yet is the Whole30 people on Facebook. That’s where that pretty girl up top came from. In her testimonial, she talks about how great she felt doing Whole30, and how it shaved minutes off her 5k time.

And she admits that she doesn’t normally look like that while she’s running.

But still, I want to be her.  I want to look like her. I want to feel happy and excited about running instead of just being proud that I dragged my ass out of bed and made it to the gym without falling asleep or forgetting my pants.

And so I’m going to unfollow Whole30 today.  No offense, Whole30.  It’s not you.

It’s me.


2 thoughts on “I want to look this good while jogging.

  1. It’s not. It’s a very restrictive diet. Most people won’t finish it. You need to make strategic/impactful changes to your lifestyle, not 30 day programs. If you’re binging, you need to identify what’s driving your relationship with food and resolve it. If that isn’t a bigger issue, you just need to learn to plan ahead with your meals and learn how to make delicious and healthful meals. After, of course, you break the addiction to your binge foods. Adopting a healthy lifestyle isn’t the white-knuckled, life of deprivation most people think it is. Imagine eating delicious while foods that provide tons of energy, prevent sickness and disease, and manage your waistline. Once you live it, the thought of eating processed and sugar laden garbage will be unappealing.

  2. I successfully did the Whole30 program last year, so I do understand exactly what it’s all about. And I totally agree that lifestyle changes are what I need rather than 30-day programs, so I agree with a lot of what you’ve said, but I’m going to respectfully disagree with the idea that eating “processed and sugar laden garbage” will just magically become unappealing to me at any point. I eat organic, whole foods 90 percent of the time. I’m an excellent cook. I can make healthy foods taste amazing. I’ve got that part of the equation down.

    But I can also binge eat on whole foods just as quickly as I can cookies or chips. It’s more about a lack of control over my eating than what or how much I am eating.

    And I am, in fact, dealing with bigger issues that drive my relationship with food and suggesting I just “resolve it” is pretty unhelpful, as it insinuates that if I would “just” figure that out, I could give up unhealthy foods as easily as you have. As you might have noticed from the title of my blog, I have a diagnosed eating disorder that warps my emotional relationship with food.

    I appreciate your impulse to share your knowledge and help, but that kind of comment is unhelpful and could, in fact, be very triggering.

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